Learn what he really wants in the bedroom and why, with these awesome sex tips and advice. The importance of sex in a healthy relationship cannot be understated.
When it comes to sex, guys are simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of those great stages of male performance, and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the stark reality. It’s no wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman might loses sight of a guy’s true identity. Here are the top “unmasking” facts you may want to know about:
1. We Fear Intimacy…
…but not for the reason that you think! Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate and even more expressive, than girls until they reach the school age.
At that time, social repression begins—of words, feelings and thoughts and our desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for the intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it’s smothering.
But because we realize how desperate we are for it. What’s a woman to do? First, understand that your guy’s hasty retreat post-sex at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much he’s denied it in life). Then, maybe retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his boyhood habits are perfectly manly.
2. We Encourage Fantasies
“Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame and also judge them,” . Men wish women would reveal about their imaginings. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out those scenarios that have tantalized you and then place them in the box.
When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, What about this fantasy do you like?
3. We Like It When You Talk
Talking during the sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, istructive and praising are great starts.
As amusing as it may sound, a woman’s words can also make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, even though he’s a suburban banker.
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4. We Need Your Honesty
Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it’s often sometimes where the stresses show up. If we complain about the lack of sex (or your doing certain things only on our birthday), we may be overlooking some of serious issues. We need you to enlighten us.
The male ego is often sometimes tied to sex, so it’s easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as of female disinterest. Avoiding these problems, only perpetuates your feeling unseen and our frustration.
5. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Men are accused of usually being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this. “Men see sex as a kind of celebration,” says Dr. Schaefer. It’s easy to allow some demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it mainly should not be on the bottom rung.” If that doesn’t motivates you want to “seize your day”, consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which usually has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it also eliminates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.
6. We Are Not Just Our…
The penis gets all the press, but men have many erogenous zones, Men tend not to correct women because they’re afraid women will shut down and not allow to touch them at all. But there are many places a woman should touch. Like the chest, the inner thighs and face. Two other areas: Gently gripping a man’s testicles can be a real turn-on, as it blends control also with release.
Also, stimulating the perineum, this is the area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.
7. We Appreciate Sex for Sex’s Sake
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the complete right medicine. According to a psychotherapist and sexologist, “Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it also take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but to ravishing her.” On occasion, usually try letting him ravish you.